Ukrainian women for marriage to American men
We hear these questions all the time, from our American visitors and members, "Why Ukrainian women want to leave Ukraine?" and "Why Ukrainian women want to marry American men?".
While those questions seem to be different, the answer to all of them is exactly the same: Actually, they don't!.
What we mean is that Ukrainian women do not want to leave Ukraine and they do not want to marry American men.
You may ask us then why there are so many personal advertisements and profiles on dating sites of Ukrainian women seeking men in United States and other countries. Yes, this is definitely right, but this doesn't mean Ukrainian women want to leave Ukraine or marry American men.
The first reason for this is that Ukrainian women just have no option. Ukrainian women want to marry good men and have a happy family and children, but it's not always possible in Ukraine for all of them. Because here is huge demographic disproportion in Ukraine.
The second reason is the well-publicized alcohol abuse in Ukraine by men, which results in poor health conditions and abusive behavior of men. It is a custom where men get together with their friends after work and get drunk, then they go home. The woman is supposed to look after children and make a meal for the husband coming home from work (who often comes home drunk) and if a woman complains, it may end up in a verbal or worst physical abuse by the man.
Now let us differentiate between the two kinds of American men that Ukrainian women will date and marry. First are the men who are looking for Ukrainian wives either on dating sites or going to Ukraine in search. There are programs in which you can go to Ukraine with a tour group in hopes of finding a Ukrainian wife. On these trips men are introduced to Ukrainian women who are looking to date American men. These men typically use wealth as the main strategy to land a Ukrainian woman. These men may not be rich by American standards but if you are middle class in America you will be seen as rich in the eyes of a Ukrainian woman. Typically these types of men are unable to get a woman in the traditional way and are therefore essentially looking to (purchase) a wife. Unfortunately, most of the Ukrainian women don’t actually like these men for who they are but instead see freedom in form of wealth. This type of situation has the risk to end badly. The women are really marrying the men for money and there is no real love there. While this is not always the case, it is a high probability.
Second, there is a standard American man who is just seeking a wife regardless of their nationality. This situation usually ends much better than the previous one discussed. This is a traditional dating model where a man meets a woman and they fall in love and there is no ulterior motives. But, because America has a much better standard of living comparability to Ukraine there will always be that underlying appeal of shacking up with American men. This type of men seems to have more long term success with Ukrainian women than the first men described above.
Think about how women in America act when they hear an Australian or British accent, they love it. Ukrainian women are no different; an American man is exotic to them because American men are not the normal men they meet on a day to day basis. Furthermore, American men have an absolutely different way of set of values and beliefs due to cultural environments in which they are raised. Usually, American men are more caring, kind and loving than Ukrainian men. In Ukrainian the culture is heavily infused with hard drinking and openly disobeying societal rules and regulations. This leaves Ukrainian women having very little in the way of security and stability. American men on average are raised to follow social norms and therefore, their behavior is more attractive to Ukrainian women. Ukrainian women see American men as secure and safe.
As we mentioned American men are more exotic than Ukrainian men and this excites Ukrainian women. The bad news, this does not mean that all Ukrainian women will be smitten with an American man. Dating is subjective and one person’s prince charming may be another person’s Frankenstein. We think the secret is to find a woman in whom you have shared believes and values regardless of their nationality and hold on for the ride.
Quotes from the web:
- I think there are a couple of things going on in a very general sense here... Many men may not admit it or realize it, but they feel American women are out of their control these days - too independent. They prefer women who are just happy to be with an American man
- As American men and that's the problem. Ukrainian men are basically the same as any other men, but American men have perhaps a more open and liberal attitude due to their culture, are more likely to treat their women well, and give them a better family life. Some educated Ukrainian women may find their local choice of men are from a pool that seems parochial or small-minded and seek men abroad for that reason.
- Ukrainian women are so beautiful. When I was a kid, it was during the cold war and my thoughts of Ukrainian women were of scarf wearing, broken down farmers, waiting in lines for shoes, cheese, and army boots ... My goodness was that all propaganda. If you want a serious answer, I guess you are referring to Ukrainian women, etc... the answer is that there are a lot of lonely men here in America and there are a lot of women that are struggling in Ukraine, and they dream of a comfortable life with a good man here in America. So you have two people that are hoping for something better and praying that they will find something by placing logic in front of love.