Russian brides looking for the right man not a country

An interview with our agency's department manager Olga Matveyeva:

"Foreign men usually don't mind if their brides have children from their previous marriages"

- Olga, what kind of women are looking for husbands abroad?

- Those that have never been married come to us, as well as those who have had the experience of starting a family, and a bride without a child, and with one or two children. Last year a woman approached with three kids and she found a stable relationship. Foreigners take it easier to have a child, or even several children, than in Russia. In 90% of our cases, men look for a life partner without children from previous relationships.

- At what age do ladies decide to look for a relationship abroad?

- Now in our database the youngest bride is 18 years old, the oldest is 62. However, the most common age of clients of international marriage agencies - women from 30 to 40 years. With one, and sometimes several, higher education. Until the age of 26, the girl is convinced that she will find a match in Russia. But closer to 30 she herself, and even under the influence of the environment, which says that time flies, and you still have time to give birth, begins to think and look for different options. Such brides are very quickly find a partner, literally within a few months.

- What countries are most desired destination for Russian brides?

- Russian brides are not looking for a country, but for the right man in the first place. Nowadays, most brides do not need to leave their home country, to realize their career and achieve various success if they wish, and here you can. Many of women say the same: "I would not leave Moscow at all: there is work, a car, an apartment, there is no one close to me".

As an agency, our men clients are mainly from the USA, Canada, Australia, France, Italy, Germany, Switzerland, Mexico, Turkey and Spain.

- Are young women looking for men their age or for older men?

- If a woman is 26-30 years old and wants to have children in the future, she is looking for a man under 40. But in general, the difference of 10 years suits everyone.

- What are the demands girls make on candidates for husbandhood?

- We try not to work with clients who come and say: "I want a house by the sea, a generous husband to give coats and bags from leading designers. In this case, neither age nor any mental qualities and hobbies of men are not interested in them. This approach to finding a life partner is fundamentally wrong, in my opinion.

Once there was a case that a woman complained that everyone around smokes and drinks, and she is a vegetarian, and would like the same man. But Europeans themselves are also committed to a healthy lifestyle, and we picked her up pretty quickly.

- And what kind of girls are men from abroad looking for?

- Everyone has different tasks. Some people at 50 just remember that it's time to start a family and have a baby. Men like that are looking for women under 42 years old. And there are men who have a marriage, have children, and now they just want a soul mate next to them.

- "Preferably blonde" - most often on the list of special requirements. And in general, Europeans are looking for women with natural beauty. The ladies' passion for Botox and plastics, in my opinion, is the wrong approach. I note that Botox has also been resorted to by very young women. It seems to me that this is nothing: a girl passionate about plastics immediately positions herself as a body, respectively, and the attitude of men will be to her as a body. But more importantly, it is the inner spiritual content, it will help the bride in her search.

Foreigners see the "made" beauties at once. And scrolling through the questionnaires of women, even potential grooms at an age refuse such, even if against the background of peers woman in the years, but with plastic, looks brighter and younger.

- And do Europeans have stereotypes about Russian women?

- The most important thing that foreigners are actually looking for wives from Russia is the natural beauty, femininity and soulfulness of our women. An example from a recent one. A man from Luxembourg came to Moscow. He and his wife lived 25 years, put their children on their feet and realized that they had lost something in each other as a man and a woman - and parted. After the divorce he went to Bulgaria for treatment and noticed that in Eastern Europe ladies look and behave differently than in Western Europe. Then the man decided to contact our partner, an international marriage agency in Germany. There he became interested in Russia, started visiting the Russian center in Luxembourg, learning the Russian language. I hope that his acquaintance with Moscow bride will have a happy continuation.

One groom from Austria complained to me that family values and, in fact, men are in the 10th place after the dog in the ranking of priorities of the Austrian woman. And this fact was a stimulus for him to look for a lady in Russia. It's not the same here. And the French say: "Russian women saved us".

I can sing praises to our Russian women for a long time. I think that women are the real wealth of our country.

- How do you pick a couple?

- Intuition plays a huge role here. Not only mine, but also men's. Not so long ago, we were approached by an ex-client married to a Frenchman. Turns out, looking at her, a family friend wanted, as he put it, "the same wife." I sent him 15 photos of different brides, even without profiles, from which he chose one single girl. And I immediately expressed my desire to come. They met in Moscow, and exactly one year later married in France. Besides intuition, common interests, characters, different life coincidences are of great importance.

- And a lot of acquaintances in general ends in marriage?

- When the bride turns to a marriage agency, first of all, change her view of himself and her life, the relationship. This factor leads to changes in her personal life. There was even such an example: a woman came to us, and two weeks later met her future husband at a company. Therefore, if we talk about statistics, with our help and with our direct participation there are already more than a hundred international families, but indirectly we have helped a much larger number of women. I will give a few examples just for the last few months. At the end of March, our bride's wedding took place, who approached us a little over a year ago, came with her 10-month-old daughter. We introduced her to a Frenchman. Now they have moved to France. In early April, a 27-year-old girl married in Italy, on December 29, a 46-year-old woman married an Austrian. Another of our brides is also planning a wedding in the near future. She has quite a long search period. She went to meetings with men from different countries 15 times, but the relationship did not develop. And now she's finally met that one.

There's a lot of Russian girls in the database. I'd even say too many. I'm sorry that so many young women have to leave without finding a decent man in their homeland and not being able to implement here as a wife and mother.

- Are you helping to correspond with your fiancé?

- Nobody writes for brides, we can somehow suggest, help with translation, but the text for a woman we will not invent. It's a demand from European partners. The couple communicate by e-mail, WhatsApp, Skype and Viber. But it's up to the meeting, of course.

- Where do the first meetings usually take place?

- More often than not, a man invites you to his place. Then, if a relationship is established, he goes to Russia, watches his chosen one live, gets acquainted with relatives. In Europeans, generally accepted to ask the hand and heart of his chosen one from her parents, even if the woman is already not so young.

- Do you follow the fate of girls who married foreigners with your help?

- Yes, my clients and I don't lose touch after they get married. One of our fiancées married an Italian. And at first, she called us every day and cried. Of course, moving to another country, creating a family with a man of a different mentality, a different culture is stressful. But when there is mutual sympathy, support, mutual understanding and, most importantly, understanding - why you are creating a family, the difficulties of the first period of adaptation in a new place can be overcome.