hear these questions all the time, from our American visitors and members,
"Why Ukrainian women want to leave Ukraine?" and "Why Ukrainian women want
to marry American men?".
While those questions
seem to be different, the answer to all of them is exactly the same:
Actually, they don't!.
What we mean is that
Ukrainian women do not want to leave Ukraine and they do not want to marry
You may ask us then why
there are so many personal advertisements and profiles on dating sites of
Ukrainian women seeking men in United States and other countries. Yes,
this is definitely right, but this doesn't mean Ukrainian women want to
leave Ukraine or marry American men.
The first reason for
this is that Ukrainian women just have no option. Ukrainian women want to
marry good men and have a happy family and children, but it's not always
possible in Ukraine for all of them. Because here is huge demographic
disproportion in Ukraine.
The second reason is
the well-publicized alcohol abuse in Ukraine by men, which results in poor
health conditions and abusive behavior of men. It is a custom where men
get together with their friends after work and get drunk, then they go
home. The woman is supposed to look after children and make a meal for the
husband coming home from work (who often comes home drunk) and if a woman
complains, it may end up in a verbal or worst physical abuse by the man.
Now let us
differentiate between the two kinds of American men that Ukrainian women
will date and marry. First are the men who are looking for Ukrainian wives
either on dating sites or going to Ukraine in search. There are programs
in which you can go to Ukraine with a tour group in hopes of finding a
Ukrainian wife. On these trips men are introduced to Ukrainian women who
are looking to date American men. These men typically use wealth as the
main strategy to land a Ukrainian woman. These men may not be rich by
American standards but if you are middle class in America you will be seen
as rich in the eyes of a Ukrainian woman. Typically these types of men are
unable to get a woman in the traditional way and are therefore essentially
looking to (purchase) a wife. Unfortunately, most of the Ukrainian women
don’t actually like these men for who they are but instead see freedom in
form of wealth. This type of situation has the risk to end badly. The
women are really marrying the men for money and there is no real love
there. While this is not always the case, it is a high probability.
Second, there is a
standard American man who is just seeking a wife regardless of their
nationality. This situation usually ends much better than the previous one
discussed. This is a traditional dating model where a man meets a woman
and they fall in love and there is no ulterior motives. But, because
America has a much better standard of living comparability to Ukraine
there will always be that underlying appeal of shacking up with American
men. This type of men seems to have more long term success with Ukrainian
women than the first men described above.
Think about how women
in America act when they hear an Australian or British accent, they love
it. Ukrainian women are no different; an American man is exotic to them
because American men are not the normal men they meet on a day to day
basis. Furthermore, American men have an absolutely different way of set
of values and beliefs due to cultural environments in which they are
raised. Usually, American men are more caring, kind and loving than
Ukrainian men. In Ukrainian the culture is heavily infused with hard
drinking and openly disobeying societal rules and regulations. This leaves
Ukrainian women having very little in the way of security and stability.
American men on average are raised to follow social norms and therefore,
their behavior is more attractive to Ukrainian women. Ukrainian women see
American men as secure and safe.
As we mentioned
American men are more exotic than Ukrainian men and this excites Ukrainian
women. The bad news, this does not mean that all Ukrainian women will be
smitten with an American man. Dating is subjective and one person’s prince
charming may be another person’s Frankenstein. We think the secret is to
find a woman in whom you have shared believes and values regardless of
their nationality and hold on for the ride.
Quotes from the web:
- I think there are a couple of things going on in a very general sense
here... Many men may not admit it or realize it, but they feel American
women are out of their control these days - too independent. They prefer
women who are just happy to be with an American man
- As American men and that's the problem. Ukrainian men are basically the
same as any other men, but American men have perhaps a more open and
liberal attitude due to their culture, are more likely to treat their
women well, and give them a better family life. Some educated Ukrainian
women may find their local choice of men are from a pool that seems
parochial or small-minded and seek men abroad for that reason.
- Ukrainian women are so beautiful. When I was a kid, it was during the
cold war and my thoughts of Ukrainian women were of scarf wearing, broken
down farmers, waiting in lines for shoes, cheese, and army boots ... My
goodness was that all propaganda. If you want a serious answer, I guess
you are referring to Ukrainian women, etc... the answer is that there are
a lot of lonely men here in America and there are a lot of women that are
struggling in Ukraine, and they dream of a comfortable life with a good
man here in America. So you have two people that are hoping for something
better and praying that they will find something by placing logic in front